I used to be a movie addict. Now, you can't get me out of the house unless I'll be in the theatre laughing. The last movie I thoroughly enjoyed was Girls Trip. I just love comedy- especially romantic comedies. Here are the romantic comedies I've loved growing up, even though they had horrible ratings and I may be judged.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 10%
Y'all. Miguel A. Nuñez, Jr. from Life?! Lil Kim as his ex?! Vivica A. Fox as a star athlete and love interest?! Tommy Davidson as Puff Smokey Smoke!!!! The casting was excellent and so was the script. A man having to take responsibility for his actions and women being respected as professional athletes. Rare. Oh, and I almost forgot THE JENIFER LEWIS was his Auntie! I can't wait to show my kids this fav of mine.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 45%
Everyone knows that Paula Patton can't act worth a damn. That doesn't take away from the performances of Queen Latifah, Common, Phylicia Rashad and Pam Grier though. Another iconic cast! Any time an attractive athlete suffers an injury, I always joke that I can get them "Just Wright." Get it? I know, I'm hilarious. This is such a complicated, authentic representation of love and intimacy that I crave every time I watch.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 10%
'90s Halle is my favorite Halle. Also, this is another fav of mine that stars Tommy Davidson. There's also the legendary Samuel L. Jackson. Or as Black folks say, "Samu-L Jackson." What I love most about this movie is that Waymon (Joseph C. Phillips) knew the moment he saw Natalie (Berry) that he loved her. He did everything possible, and I mean everything to win this woman over and I Stan. It's also just damn clever and funny. Extremely underrated. Another movie that my kids just have to know.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 42%
Beyoncé has a lot of haters when it comes to her acting. I love every single movie she has starred in though. Her Southern flair and attitude gets to shine. Since she no longer does a lot of interviews, I also love getting to see this side of her on the screen. Yet another film packed with legends: Shirley Caesar, Mike Epps, Faith Evans, Melba Moore, Wendell Pierce, Angie Stone, Rue McClanahan, Montell Jordan, Ann Nesby, Lou Myers, Mary Mary, Yolanda Adams, and THE O'Jays! Whew. That says it all. Press play on this movie whenever you can.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 10%
First of all, Rest In Peace to John Singleton, one of the producers of this gem. Second of all, I had to make this gif myself which proves how severely underrated this movie is. I'm so upset by it, too. THE JADA PINKETT?! And once again...Tommy Davidson. It's clearly time that we give Tommy his flowers. Ok, let's get down to it: Jada as a lead, Tommy checking his friends' misogyny and toxicity, a TRANS CO-STAR with more than one line (who also isn't the butt of jokes), MORE TRANS actors, Paula Jai Parker, Foxy Brown, LL Cool J, Billy Dee Williams, Orlando Jones, and an accurate depiction of astrology. This movie is also an example that moving fast in a relationship can end well for a lot of couples. Unless your car gets hit by a truck...let's ignore all that. ;)
What underrated movies do you love? Comment below!
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Read or Weep,
I never spend more than 2 hours writing and uploading a blog post. As I always say, I'm not trying to be a sponsored, professional pics plastered everywhere type of blogger (although the money would be nice!). Part of my healing is being vulnerable and helping others. I've been thinking of how to articulate how this year has been for me. What you're reading now, I wrote in the notes of my phone a month ago. That's how seriously I'm taking this post. I want you to comprehend the weight this year has had on me, learn more about the type of woman I am, and hopefully not make the mistakes I did in 2020. Here goes...
You'll never be 100% prepared...for tragedy.
I've lost enough, human and material, to know that you will never be prepared to live without either. Society preaches about saving, cherishing, etc. so you'll always be "set", but to be honest it's BS. I wake up and thank God for it all each day, and after I say "Amen," my heart still aches and my mind steady races. I've chosen to take my anger, isolation and gloominess and turn it into the candor my loved ones would expect of me. My goal for 2020 is to return to living more boldly. Your world can still crash when you're standing still. Might as well move! They would want me to move.
You can give someone your best and it still not work out...but that's ok.
So many times I thought I was so wise about relationships. I never thought I'd be the one to make stupid, rash mistakes over a man...and friends. Well, long story short, I did. To admit it allows me to move on. Many months I've avoided the faults. Many months I've looked into the mirror and forgave myself. Escapism isn't always bad, but if I'm going to be the woman I know I can be...I gotta stop helping others before I help myself. I don't have to overextend myself to keep people in my life because I'm enough. I just need to own up to what I did, clean the spilt milk and try my best not to do it again. Right? Right. However, my heart will always be open and I will give my best until my soul meets its match.
Ask for help.
I've only made it to the last month of this year because I asked for help. Multiple times. Simple as that. No need to question what I just said. I won't even lecture you about it, just please do it! Save yourself the anxiety and worry and ask someone to help you get to a better place than you were the day before.
Health is non-negotiable.
Take time to read that box or jar before you put it in your cart. Stretch, take a walk, do yoga- whatever movement fits your lifestyle and personality. I'm not a trainer, of course. However, I do believe this: you do not have to be miserable or overworked while exercising. There are too many types of movement to choose from to conform to the workouts you see celebs doing on IG. Don't let people with professional chefs and fitness instructors keep you from celebrating what your body can do and learn to love.
I am one hell of a woman.
Period! With or without a "successful career." Whether or not my nails are done. Even when I hate my clothes. Single or not. Stuck in the house because I can't face the world just yet. I'm that girl, because I said so and I don't owe anyone any explanation. I have learned to not wrap myself up in what I can accomplish and who I can impress. I have made decisions for myself, even when I had to struggle to get where I needed to be. However, struggling will no longer be my story or identity. I'm no longer bonding to trauma or underestimating my worth. I'm choosing to thrive.
What did you learn this year? What have you started doing for yourself recently? Let me know below, or tweet me @AlexisJadeL.
Thanks for reading! See you in 2020!
Read or Weep,
I love all forms of entertainment, not just music. So, when I go to Hulu, Netflix or Amazon Prime to binge watch a show, I get really disappointed with the selection. Don't get me wrong- I love "The Golden Girls" and "Cheers". It's just important for us to be able to tap into nostalgia and watch our old classic favs just like the white majority can stream "Friends". Shows like "The Bernie Mac Show", "A Different World" and "Living Single" are available for streaming. However, those aren't the only Black sitcoms that had an impact on the culture. Here are 5 of many shows I want to see available for streaming:
For Your Love (1998-2002)
Many people will either say, "Huh?" or "I forgot all about that show!" Either way, it'll only take an episode to convince them to binge all 5 seasons. This show featured Black couples that didn't play the tokens or supporting characters. I love healthy Black love. Dear Amazon, please adopt this show.
The Parkers (1999-2004)
Do I even have to explain? A dark skinned, plus size woman as a lead character. The main focus of the show wasn't her weight, AND she had handsome romantic interests. On top of all that, the show is just damn funny.
The Steve Harvey Show (1996-2002)
This show is still one of the most diverse sitcoms. Period. A Black woman as principal. Jewish and Afro-Latino supporting characters as students. A teacher who could sing, dance, play the piano and sax, and made time to mentor students. I have spent days watching this show and laughing to tears. We need it, Hulu. Thanks in advance!
In the House (1995-1998)
First, I just wanna pay homage to Maia Campbell. The official Friendly Black Hottie of the '90s. Secondly, anything with Debbie Allen is already a classic. Lastly, LL Cool J in his prime. Duh! Let's go, Netflix.
It is absolutely WRONG for this show not to be streaming! I don't have a DVD player anymore, and watching on cable just doesn't work for a lot of people's budgets and/or schedules. I know I talked about Joan being insufferable, but this is still the best show that proves the world doesn't deserve Black women. We really are the blueprint.
What shows do you want to see on streaming platforms? Comment below!
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Read or Weep,