I've been committed to working out at home for two years now. Something about going to the gym for 30-40 minutes to touch equipment 60 other people used, not trusting the bathrooms and having to brave Atlanta traffic just doesn't sit right with me. You also pay for that lol. I have hit all of my fitness goals by buying all the equipment I need on Amazon and finding my favorite YouTube trainers. Here's my schedule and a few trainers I love:
High Intensity Interval Training
Low Impact Cardio (Days I'm not feeling well)
Trainers: MadFit, Massy Arias
Upper Body Training
Trainer: Fitness Blender
Booty & Leg Day
Trainers: Fitness Blender, MadFit, Joie in Life
Trainer: Yoga with Adriene
Trainer: Dansique Fitness
Trainers: Blogilates, Chloe Ting
Monday through Friday, I also do a 5-minute ab circuit before or after breakfast to maintain my abs.
How to Stay Motivated
1. Put it on your to-do list.
Schedule your workouts like you do your meetings, nail and lash appointments, and any other priorities. When you look at your list and realize it's not done, you'll be excited to check it off.
2. Know your body.
I like to work out in the mornings. I know I feel less anxious throughout the day if I'm not thinking about how I still have to change into workout clothes, lay out my mat and do burpees or sumo squats. I also feel more confident knowing I prioritized myself and got so much done so early in the day. So, if you feel most confident and energized by taking it easy in the morning, then schedule your workouts for evenings.
3. Choose cute workout clothes and equipment.
It's like those days you laid out your first day of school fit. Do the same with your fitness gear. Get kettlebells, weights, mats, etc. in your favorite colors and designs. You'll feel more compelled to wear and use them!
4. Set attainable goals.
If you excessively worry about your weight, try not stepping on the scale for a while. If you find yourself comparing your body to everyone else's, unfollow them and follow women in fitness whose body types are more similar to yours. Then, start setting goals to be stronger mentally and physically. If it normally takes you forever to do 10 push-ups, set a goal to be the Push-Up Queen by the end of the month. If you normally can't make it through a 30+ minute video, repeat it once or twice a week until you can! You got this!
5. Stop doing workouts you hate!!!
I mean it. Just because others love mountain climbers, deadlifts, etc. doesn't meant you have to. If minimal equipment makes you happy, there are PLENTY of workouts for you. If you'd rather do more Pilates and yoga than kickboxing and HIIT, that's fine too! Do what you find yourself actually looking forward to doing, and you'll naturally be more consistent.
Whatever workouts you choose, just keep it moving! Your body is beautiful and strong, and so are you. Let me know if any of these tips worked.
Thanks for hanging with me! See you in two weeks.
Read or Weep,
I used to be a movie addict. Now, you can't get me out of the house unless I'll be in the theatre laughing. The last movie I thoroughly enjoyed was Girls Trip. I just love comedy- especially romantic comedies. Here are the romantic comedies I've loved growing up, even though they had horrible ratings and I may be judged.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 10%
Y'all. Miguel A. Nuñez, Jr. from Life?! Lil Kim as his ex?! Vivica A. Fox as a star athlete and love interest?! Tommy Davidson as Puff Smokey Smoke!!!! The casting was excellent and so was the script. A man having to take responsibility for his actions and women being respected as professional athletes. Rare. Oh, and I almost forgot THE JENIFER LEWIS was his Auntie! I can't wait to show my kids this fav of mine.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 45%
Everyone knows that Paula Patton can't act worth a damn. That doesn't take away from the performances of Queen Latifah, Common, Phylicia Rashad and Pam Grier though. Another iconic cast! Any time an attractive athlete suffers an injury, I always joke that I can get them "Just Wright." Get it? I know, I'm hilarious. This is such a complicated, authentic representation of love and intimacy that I crave every time I watch.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 10%
'90s Halle is my favorite Halle. Also, this is another fav of mine that stars Tommy Davidson. There's also the legendary Samuel L. Jackson. Or as Black folks say, "Samu-L Jackson." What I love most about this movie is that Waymon (Joseph C. Phillips) knew the moment he saw Natalie (Berry) that he loved her. He did everything possible, and I mean everything to win this woman over and I Stan. It's also just damn clever and funny. Extremely underrated. Another movie that my kids just have to know.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 42%
Beyoncé has a lot of haters when it comes to her acting. I love every single movie she has starred in though. Her Southern flair and attitude gets to shine. Since she no longer does a lot of interviews, I also love getting to see this side of her on the screen. Yet another film packed with legends: Shirley Caesar, Mike Epps, Faith Evans, Melba Moore, Wendell Pierce, Angie Stone, Rue McClanahan, Montell Jordan, Ann Nesby, Lou Myers, Mary Mary, Yolanda Adams, and THE O'Jays! Whew. That says it all. Press play on this movie whenever you can.
Rotten Tomatoes Rating: 10%
First of all, Rest In Peace to John Singleton, one of the producers of this gem. Second of all, I had to make this gif myself which proves how severely underrated this movie is. I'm so upset by it, too. THE JADA PINKETT?! And once again...Tommy Davidson. It's clearly time that we give Tommy his flowers. Ok, let's get down to it: Jada as a lead, Tommy checking his friends' misogyny and toxicity, a TRANS CO-STAR with more than one line (who also isn't the butt of jokes), MORE TRANS actors, Paula Jai Parker, Foxy Brown, LL Cool J, Billy Dee Williams, Orlando Jones, and an accurate depiction of astrology. This movie is also an example that moving fast in a relationship can end well for a lot of couples. Unless your car gets hit by a truck...let's ignore all that. ;)
What underrated movies do you love? Comment below!
Thanks for stopping by! See you in two weeks.
Read or Weep,
I never spend more than 2 hours writing and uploading a blog post. As I always say, I'm not trying to be a sponsored, professional pics plastered everywhere type of blogger (although the money would be nice!). Part of my healing is being vulnerable and helping others. I've been thinking of how to articulate how this year has been for me. What you're reading now, I wrote in the notes of my phone a month ago. That's how seriously I'm taking this post. I want you to comprehend the weight this year has had on me, learn more about the type of woman I am, and hopefully not make the mistakes I did in 2020. Here goes...
You'll never be 100% prepared...for tragedy.
I've lost enough, human and material, to know that you will never be prepared to live without either. Society preaches about saving, cherishing, etc. so you'll always be "set", but to be honest it's BS. I wake up and thank God for it all each day, and after I say "Amen," my heart still aches and my mind steady races. I've chosen to take my anger, isolation and gloominess and turn it into the candor my loved ones would expect of me. My goal for 2020 is to return to living more boldly. Your world can still crash when you're standing still. Might as well move! They would want me to move.
You can give someone your best and it still not work out...but that's ok.
So many times I thought I was so wise about relationships. I never thought I'd be the one to make stupid, rash mistakes over a man...and friends. Well, long story short, I did. To admit it allows me to move on. Many months I've avoided the faults. Many months I've looked into the mirror and forgave myself. Escapism isn't always bad, but if I'm going to be the woman I know I can be...I gotta stop helping others before I help myself. I don't have to overextend myself to keep people in my life because I'm enough. I just need to own up to what I did, clean the spilt milk and try my best not to do it again. Right? Right. However, my heart will always be open and I will give my best until my soul meets its match.
Ask for help.
I've only made it to the last month of this year because I asked for help. Multiple times. Simple as that. No need to question what I just said. I won't even lecture you about it, just please do it! Save yourself the anxiety and worry and ask someone to help you get to a better place than you were the day before.
Health is non-negotiable.
Take time to read that box or jar before you put it in your cart. Stretch, take a walk, do yoga- whatever movement fits your lifestyle and personality. I'm not a trainer, of course. However, I do believe this: you do not have to be miserable or overworked while exercising. There are too many types of movement to choose from to conform to the workouts you see celebs doing on IG. Don't let people with professional chefs and fitness instructors keep you from celebrating what your body can do and learn to love.
I am one hell of a woman.
Period! With or without a "successful career." Whether or not my nails are done. Even when I hate my clothes. Single or not. Stuck in the house because I can't face the world just yet. I'm that girl, because I said so and I don't owe anyone any explanation. I have learned to not wrap myself up in what I can accomplish and who I can impress. I have made decisions for myself, even when I had to struggle to get where I needed to be. However, struggling will no longer be my story or identity. I'm no longer bonding to trauma or underestimating my worth. I'm choosing to thrive.
What did you learn this year? What have you started doing for yourself recently? Let me know below, or tweet me @AlexisJadeL.
Thanks for reading! See you in 2020!
Read or Weep,